“Why Korean women are sexually inept?” Korean sex & culture insight…

I made a goal to post blog everyday so before going to bed, I am posting this.
Saved answer that I posted on Craigslist back in 2014.
One foreigner(expat living and working in South Korea) posted question on craigslist rants and rave section.
And there were many responses posted by other expats and Koreans regarding his question.

The question was “Why Korean women are sexually inept?” 

My client…that CEO who led me to escort life…I will call him from now on my American repeat client??
He’s my best supporter and mentor and repeat client and friend…and wise successful business man who speaks fluent Korean.

Anyway, back then he was my therapeutic massage client. 🙂

When I gave him massage, we would chat and talk about stuff and I asked him what he thought about the question.
Although I am Korean…I don’t really spend a lot of time with Koreans or watch news or drama(soap opera).
So I still learn a lot from my beloved expat friend…and my loyal CEO client about Korean culture as they spend more time with Korean than I do.
Sex and dating culture…to be more specific. I also recorded several episodes to publish as podcast so they are coming soon!
I will post them as soon as I upload within few days.

Anyway below was my answer on the rants and rave section for one frustrated expat’s question about Korean women…
Read on…This discussion was happening in 2014.

My craigslist answer: Why Korean women are sexually inept?

All the comments regarding this question have valid points.

I was also thinking about your question and asked opinion from one American gentleman who speaks fluent Korean and have sex with Korean women all the time.

All his friends are Korean and he knows more about sex culture, marriage, prostitution industry than I do as Korean woman.
I only have one close Korean female friend from my collage and few Korean friends(not like best friends…)
Most of my friends are non-Korean, I live abroad more than living in Korea, just to give you an idea about where I am coming from.

According to one Korean lady who is educating traditional Korean women about sex(I mean the Korean women who don’t hang out on CL or know English speaking world…just living Korean life), many Korean women have gynobibliophobia(phobia?) towards sex.

They are not so educated…I mean…about being open…enjoying sex…etc.
Although younger generation is different nowadays when I see the love motel culture!

The soap opera “Sex and the City” opened up Korean women to be open about sex…I think. 🙂

So this “Korean women sex expert” gentleman said when I asked
“Why Korean women are sexually inept?”
-on Time April 16, 2014

He said
“If she wants to marry the guy, she will be inept.
Because Korean man will not marry women who have lots of experience”
This is not exact quote…but you know what he meant?

So…according to him (he’s high class, highly successful business man), these successful Korean men like to marry Korean women who are innocent and good wife…for good mother for their offspring.

And most of these Korean successful business men have their lovers out of marriage.
Do you guys all hear that most of married Korean couples are cheating on each other???
When I heard that from Korean…I was shocked!!!!
For marriage…they marry…and raise their children…but not so passionate…
And they get their lovers out of marriage.
I heard all the hiking clubs for middle age people are the place for people to hook up.
Also booking club…(I didn’t know this till I heard from this gentleman), all the people there…are married!!!

He estimated 90 % married Korean men cheat(have lovers, prostitution, room salon, booking club etc) and 30-40% married Korean women cheat.

For social status…they marry with someone good for marriage.
Get lovers and enjoy sex life out of marriage.

If women want to marry someone with good social status, they have to pretend they are innocent??
Also some Korean women are actually not so experienced or open minded about sex.
So there are two reasons, I assume.

Ordinary Korean women can be very conservative(who are not in the English speaking community world, hanging out with foreigners or CL…not many Korean know CL world!).

But yet Korea is the capital for prostitution in the backside…so easy to get laid…if you can speak Korean or know how Korea works…with sex industry.

This gentleman said
“You can have sex in 15 min…walking on the street. There are sex…everywhere.”

Sexually frustrated foreigners who don’t speak Korean have hard time to get laid but it can be so easy if you spoke Korean.

Personally, I feel Korean women should enjoy sex and open.
These sex business makes me sad & sick. Selling women…soul…

According to one book I am reading, this kind of situation is because women have less power.

They have to live double standard…to rely on their life to marry financially stable men(husband material) or get plastic surgery to raise their value-they think-(for better marriage/career etc)…

When women have a power, they don’t care about those because they are well off on their own and don’t have to get married for wrong(? I mean marrying not for the love but for the money) reason or get a job or higher chance on getting promoted based on the better look(if all equal ability for job).

About the Asian men and Korean women don’t go back after experiencing non Asian or bigger size…
I agree. Sorry guys…(Asian)…just personally it was true.

I had an amazing first Korean lover but most of other few Korean men I experienced…were not as fun as non Korean men I experienced.
I prefer Caucasian men. Also I make sure they are good in bed.
I love sex and it’s very important to me personally.

So in my case…this is a bit different…because I make sure usually they are good in bed.
Size matters to be honest according to my experience. 🙂
In my experience… they know how to please women.
Again, I made sure they are good…so I had a higher probability about this…

I hope my post helped you understand a little bit better about Korean women and sex…culture…

P.S. I’ve been reading “Sex at Dawn” -The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality.

Very interesting and insightful book about evolution, human beings, society, culture, monogamy being unnatural, men & women and of course sex.

It made total sense. My behavior or new tendency is matching what this book explains as I’m behaving from “free of financial insecurity or dependency” due to the confidence of my new found sense of ability because of my business opportunity and skill sets.
I don’t need to care about all the things most of women concern…and just enjoy life that includes sex.

Totally resonating with this book and made me determine to share my secret(?) to empower more women especially Korean women.

“Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, tolerant, and plenty sexy.
Got that, fellas? If you are unhappy at the amount of sexual opportunity in your life, don’t blame the women. Instead, make sure they have equal access to power, wealth, and status. Then watch what happens.”
-Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan

His TED talk

Are we sexual omnivores? | Christopher Ryan

309,795 views as of Sep 13th 12:34AM (Korean time)

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As I force(?) myself to post everyday and re-read my reply to the question, I see this comment from myself!
“These sex business makes me sad & sick. Selling women…soul…”

Who would have thought I would be involved in sex business! 🙂
Back then I had same thinking or programming or just common belief…that sex workers or prostitutes were doing something bad or wrong or something. Selling women…soul…haha.

I enjoy my escort life(I don’t do this full time…it’s more like secret side job or life or hobby feeling now) a lot.
I feel respected by 99% of my clients I met.
1% was my recent client who I think…have some emotional issue…quite insensitive style but deep down nice person(I felt)…
That case was tiny exception in terms of not respecting my time or schedule confirmation etc…

I could select and communicate with clients who requested my availability and services, I only met clients I felt resonated or feel good about.
I have a good sense and maybe I am very lucky or Universe is on my side.
🙂

Anyway, there are different kinds of sex business and acts and things going on…but not every sex business or work is same.

Anyway, now I can go to bed in peace…
I was a bit down today from MSG hangover from great Thai food I enjoyed yesterday.
I am sensitive to chemicals…

My brain was so foggy from yesterday’s fried vegetable salad(with fish sauce) and couldn’t get many things accomplished.
Bright side thing was my gym started zumba class today so I did zumba.
The instructor was so bright and happy and smiling. But so fresh out of zumba instructor course??? Haha
She was a little clumsy and inexperienced(I could tell…as I organized zumba classes when I ran my center).
But! It was good workout(not 1000 calorie burning style) and she was so bright and happy energy.
That was great. 🙂

Then after zumba, I continued with yoga class. Ashitanga.
The yoga instructor has a great energy and beautiful heart(I can feel and tell)…so it was very nice to be in her presence and class.
Relaxing, calming, meditative…although I kept thinking about the client I’ve been missing…as we talked about yoga when we met a year ago and still in our last night’s email corespondents…
I was thinking about him some moment while doing yoga…
Try to empty my mind…

I should start meditation practice more diligently. Upon waking up and before going to bed.
Empty my monkey mind.

Maybe today I was out of it…due to food sensitivity issue…MSG hangover…
Gotta go back to ketogenic life again to feel my best and perform, contribute best…sharing knowledge and info…making videos.

I am curious who are reading my blog… 🙂
Hope this post is somewhat entertaining or useful or helpful…

Have a good night or day. Thank you for reading and your time!

2 thoughts on ““Why Korean women are sexually inept?” Korean sex & culture insight…

  1. Steve says:

    I agree with most you said in regards to the question but one thing I would like to add is that under such a long Confucius culture, Korean women allow themselves to be subordinated to men. I am not saying this is a matter of right or wrong but it’s definitely something that have been embedded into their being in/around their life, very unconsciously…but as you said, this has changed in Korean culture quite a bit. I believe, especially, with younger generation by those typical Korean dramas that empowered Korean women and wives over men and husbands both at house and in bed… (it’s my case, at least, haha…)

    in any event, I enjoyed reading your posts because of a few subjects i never really think they are important…

    have a great evening, Aphrodite…

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    1. KoreanAphrodite says:

      So your case…do you have a Korean wife? 🙂
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts and insights. I agree with you on unconscious subordinated behavior.
      I like to be submissive some degree and like dominant, leading male in bed if it’s relevant…? 🙂

      Thanks for reading my blog posts and enjoying them. I appreciate your time and comments!!! It’s so fun to interact and share!

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